Tweaking Traditions

Monday, November 28, 2011

Every family no matter how big or small has its own holiday traditions that are followed throughout the years. Since we do not live in the same state as the rest of our family we usually do the traveling to make sure we continue the tradition of us spending the holidays together. This Thanksgiving we drove 55 miles to celebrate the holiday with our family and friends. We started out at around noon and made it to the first stop at 2:00. We ate, drank, had a few laughs until it was time to leave to go to the next family gathering. We arrived there at 7:00....right in time to eat...again. We stayed there for a few hours and then left to go visit yet two more family/friends gatherings. When our Thanksgiving night was done we finally went to bed at 4:00AM! It was a fun, yet extremely exhausting day! Although we love visiting family and friends...it can be so stressful to make sure we visit everyone and that we share an equal amount of time with all our loved ones.

A few years ago my daughter asked if we could please celebrate just one holiday at home. How could we say no? So we decided to stay home on Christmas.....and we began our Christmas Eve tradition. On Christmas Eve we put on our Santa hats, pile up the gifts in the truck and drive those 55 miles to deliver gifts and some Christmas cheer. We usually start early and get home late but this way we get to visit family and friends on Christmas Eve AND we also get to enjoy our Christmas Day relaxing and at home savoring every moment of the blessed holiday. I think it's a win-win!

However, choosing to spending Christmas at home means that we are not be part of all the Christmas Day gatherings but I have learned that sometimes you have to find a balance in order to make the holidays less stressful. As the kids get older and families expand sometimes it is necessary for families to tweak their traditions in order to accommodate everyone’s lifestyle. At some point one generation may have to create new traditions with their own families. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

So I'll be home for Christmas! What are some of your Holiday traditions? How do you find a balance to make the holidays less stressful?






3 comments:

YUMMommy on November 29, 2011 at 9:16 PM said...

This is something that we are still working out. With my husband's job, he works most holidays but hopefully that will change next year and we'll be able to start our traditions.

Tiffany on November 29, 2011 at 10:17 PM said...

Since we got married a couple year ago, hubby and I have compromised by splitting our holidays. We stay in Atlanta and spend Thanksgiving with my family. Then we go to Mississippi to visit his family for Christmas. It's super hard for me b/c I'm not used to spending major holidays w/o my family. And I have really young siblings, so they don't quite understand why I'm not there to open gifts with them. But it's all apart of growing up :)

Lifewithpurpose on December 1, 2011 at 1:47 PM said...

Nikki
That is alot of traveling. I have to be ok with going home when I can for the holidays. It has been hard for my mother but sometimes people have to understand that somes you have to do you. That is what I decided. Thanks for sharing.

Post a Comment